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Stress – Number 1 reason for missing work

Sue — Wed, 12 Oct 2011 11:24:57 +0000

Stress is the number one reason for missing work.

Stress starts in the mind with our perceptions. It is NOT what happens to us that matters but how we perceive what has happened.

When stress gets into our minds it then moves into our emotions which then surge through our bodies in various ways. This can be seen as anger, blame, victim or self pity modes and even depression.

Get rid of stress.

Sue Kennedy MA is a 10 year qualified NLP Coach and Hypnotherapist with many tools to enable you to get rid of stress and then get resources to lead the life you desire.

Call NOW on 020 8892 4548 for a free consultation

LOVE quotes for Valentine’s Day – 14 February 2011

Sue — Mon, 14 Feb 2011 09:55:53 +0000

Love is the only sane and satisfactory answer to the problem of human existence. Eric Fromm

There is no difficulty that enough love will not conquer; no disease that enough love will not heal; no door that enough love will not open – Emmet Fox

He also said:

If you could only love enough you would be the happiest and most powerful being in the world.

Each day give love and respect to family, friends and colleagues. Reach out a helping hand to someone who needs it and help make the world a better place.

Love yourself and that may also mean tough love! Exercise, floss your teeth, eat healthy food and spend time with yourself as well as with those you love.

How Coaching Works

Sue — Fri, 03 Dec 2010 21:19:25 +0000

A four-minute animated movie that shows how the coaching process works.

The Aquarium

Sue — Fri, 19 Nov 2010 11:25:38 +0000

I came across this wonderfully calming Aquarium video and thought that it would be good to share it with you. Please take a few minutes to watch it, it will really help you to relax.

Reiki I Workshop – 03/10/10

Sue — Tue, 27 Jul 2010 08:44:25 +0000

Judi McGormack and I are holding a Reiki I Workshop on Sunday, 3 October – venue tbc in West London – Twickenham/Teddington area.

Time: 10.00 – 4.00 – lunch included

Cost: £97 including a complete guide to the ancient healing art of Reiki

At the end of the day you will be able to heal yourself and others. You will know all the chakras, hand positions and placements on the body and how to apply the healing energy which comes through you.

Once you are attuned and start using Reiki it becomes part of your life. You can use it on small or large injuries, stress and emotional upsets, head and back aches, sudden crisis, pets, plants and even cars and machinery.

In Reiki II you will learn distance healing and the Reiki symbols.

Please let me know if you are interested in joining our workshop.

How to be more optimistic

Sue — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 09:28:51 +0000

SMILE AND THE WORLD SMILES WITH YOU

If you smile AT people, they usually smile back. Growl and be grumpy and watch them scowl instead. Research shows that facial expressions and the moods that accompany them are contagious, probably because they evolved as a means of nonverbal communication between people. You can use the infectious effects of a smile to jump-start an optimistic outlook in yourself by sending others what you want them to lob back at you. A kind word to the person behind the counter can get your day bouncing in the right direction.

SHORT-CIRCUIT PESSIMISM

A very important reason for putting on a happy face: It influences your brain in a positive way. In one study, subjects who were asked to hold a pen in their mouth (causing them to inadvertently make the facial muscle movements characteristic of a smile) rated cartoons to be funnier than did other subjects, even though they were unaware that it was the smile that was boosting their reaction. There’s an interesting biological reason for this effect: When you feel down, your brain tells your face you’re sad and your facial muscles respond by putting on a depressed expression—and convey back to the brain that, yes, you’re feeling depressed. Consciously changing the facial muscles so they don’t correspond to what you’re feeling is a way of sending a different message: “Hey, it’s not so bad down here after all.” The brain will respond by beginning to change your mood accordingly. Your physiology drives your emotions.

EXPLAIN SUCCESS AND FAILURE LIKE AN OPTIMIST TO BECOME AN OPTIMIST!

Research shows that it’s not what happens that determines your mood but how you explain what happens that counts. If an optimist encounters a computer program she can’t figure out, she’s likely to say, “Either the manual is unclear or this program is hard or maybe I’m having an off day.” The optimist keeps the failure outside herself (“the manual”), specific (“this program”), and temporary (“an off day”), while the pessimist would make it internal, global, and permanent. When success occurs optimists say, “Of course dinner turned out; I’m a good cook,” while pessimists say, “Boy, was I lucky today,” literally snatching defeat from the jaws of victory. If you start to speak to yourself in a more positive way when you succeed and fail, you’ll gradually become more optimistic.

BE GLAD YOU ARE YOU

It’s easy to be envious: Compare yourself to those with thinner thighs and fatter bank accounts and you’ll always come up wanting—and pessimistic. But the corollary is also true: No matter how bad things get, there’s always someone who’s worse off. In one simple study, subjects were randomly divided into two subgroups. One group was to finish the sentence “I wish I were a ______.” The other was asked to complete the sentence “I’m glad I’m not a ______.” When individuals rated their sense of satisfaction with their lives before and after this task, those who completed the “I’m glad I’m not a ______” sentence were significantly more satisfied than before.

LEARN TO SHIFT YOUR FOCUS

Pessimists can’t stop depressing facts or negative thoughts from poking into their consciousness but they can choose not to dwell on them. The often stated question – is the glass half full or half empty. Both are correct. However where is your focus? This active self-direction of your own moment-to-moment perspective allows you to create a new life story, one in which you take charge of your emotions and actions. Since research shows that those who feel they have a better sense of control tend to be the most optimistic, why not take charge of where your psychological lens is focused?

Add gratitude as well. Focus on the glass being half full and add several parts of thankfulness for the good in your life and you will become more optimistic instantly.

One2one sessions

Sue — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 09:16:06 +0000

One2One sessions

If you are having any challenges in any areas of your life and believe you are in need of some help come and have a free One2One consultation to see how I can help you.

If you are depressed, feeling low or not being able to cope we have a high success rate for enabling people to let go of depression so please come and talk to me. Now is the time to make positive changes in your life.

Decide now to get what you wish for in your life; what will it be like in a year to look back and know that today was the day you made the change which enabled you to make those changes.

Ring me now to set you on the way to your ideal life.

I work at The Orange Tree Clinic in Teddington High Street, at clients’ offices or at my own office in Twickenham.

Please call: 020 8892 4548 NOW.

How we can help YOU

Sue — Thu, 09 Apr 2009 10:43:00 +0000

Come and have a complimentary session to find out how well we can help you. Call 020 8892 4548 or email sue@suekennedy.com.

Looking forward to working with you.

To Stress or NOT to Stress?

Sue — Tue, 06 May 2008 11:35:52 +0000

Many of us believe that we just have to cope with stress. This is NOT true. It is our perception of stress which is the key. Some people thrive on it and some die of it; it is how we view it and what we do with that perception that makes the difference.

The person who thrives on stress will take it as a challenge – bring it on! They feel in control.

Other people will feel out of control, sigh, moan and can even get ill.

My tip is that we are ALL in control of our stress. Here are two quick ways to deal with stress immediately:

Breathe – breathe in to the count of 5 through your nose – hold for 10, breathe out through your mouth to the count of 20; repeat at least 5 times. If very stressed repeat every hour.
Control stress through your eyes! Focus on a spot in front of you – fovial vision. Then staying focussed let your eyes expand to peripheral vision (hold your hands near your eyes and see if you can still see them) At the same time do fovial and peripheral vision. In NLP we often call this expanded awareness. It is like being in the flow, everything seems effortless and easy.

In fovial vision we are in fight or flight mode – our sympathetic nervous system is called into action – it uses energy, your blood pressure increases, your heart beats faster and digestion slows down, adrenaline is released into the blood stream. All of which is great if you need to flee from a sabre toothed tiger but toxic if you are stressed at your desk or in a traffic jam!

Expanded awareness is when we are in our parasympathetic mode. This is when we breathe deep into our diaphragms, we relax and function healthily. We are in the flow.

By changing our physiology we can control our levels of stress, we need never be stressed again!

Gratitude

Sue — Mon, 26 Nov 2007 18:58:28 +0000

Taking a few minutes every day to be grateful for what we have really makes us feel so much better. When Christopher Reeve was interviewed after his accident he said that when he could just get up and cross the floor and open a door he never gave his movements a moment’s thought. Now he said I would give anything just to be able to stand up.

How often do we take stock of all the wonderful things in our lives. Really think about our lungs, our heart, those we love and the fact that we live in a country where we have running water and a clean bed to sleep in at night.

If you ever feel a little down as the year draws to a close remember that you are a millionaire in many economies. Remember all the amazing things you have to be thankful for.

So every morning start the day (as you clean or teeth, shower or have breakfast) with thanks. Thank you.